Understanding Auditory Processing and ADHD: Why "Huh?" Happens More Than You Think
Have you ever found yourself saying “Huh?” three or four times in a row because you didn’t catch what someone was saying—and then, out of sheer guilt or exhaustion, you just pretend you heard them? Same here. For years, I thought this was just a me problem, a quirk that made me feel like I was failing at basic communication. Turns out, it’s actually an ADHD thing: auditory processing issues.
What Are Auditory Processing Issues in ADHD?
ADHD affects more than just focus and attention. For many of us, it can also impact how our brains process auditory information. When someone is speaking, especially if there’s background noise, if I’m multitasking, or if I’m already overstimulated, my brain struggles to fully process what they’re saying. It’s like my ears hear the words, but somewhere between hearing and comprehension, the signal gets scrambled. And let me tell you, this can lead to a lot of awkward moments.
The Emotional Toll of Auditory Processing Issues
I used to beat myself up over it. I felt guilty for constantly asking people to repeat themselves, embarrassed when I had to fake my way through a conversation, and frustrated that something as simple as listening felt so difficult. It’s hard not to internalize those feelings when society makes you think these things are basic and effortless for everyone else.
Finding Relief and Understanding
But learning that auditory processing issues are a part of ADHD has been such a relief. It’s not that I’m bad at listening or lazy or inattentive—it’s just how my brain works. Understanding this has given me the space to extend myself grace and communicate my needs better. Here are some strategies that have worked for me:
Let people know upfront. If I’m in a noisy or overstimulating environment, I’ll say, “Hey, it’s a little hard for me to process in here. Can you speak up or repeat that if I miss something?”
Ask for clarification without guilt. Instead of feeling bad about asking someone to repeat themselves, I remind myself that it’s okay to need that extra moment to process. Most people are happy to accommodate once they understand why.
Take breaks when overstimulated. When I’m nearing my limit, I’ll step away from the noise or multitasking to reset. It makes a huge difference in how well I can engage.
Embracing Our Neurodivergent Brains
Coming to terms with how ADHD impacts my auditory processing has been freeing. It’s helped me be more compassionate toward myself and better at navigating these challenges. If you’ve experienced something similar, just know: it’s not a personal failure, and you’re not alone. Our beautifully NeuroDiv brains work differently, and that’s okay.
So the next time you find yourself saying “Huh?” on repeat, remember: it’s not just you, and it’s definitely not your fault. It’s just one more layer of the ADHD experience that we’re learning to understand and manage. And understanding it? That’s a huge win.
